The question I get asked the most is “what do women REALLY want?!?” and I understand why this can be so confusing. Every day I meet handsome and successful men who struggle at meeting and connecting with women… while the broke, ugly, douche bag manchilds of the world are snatching honey left and right. It just doesn’t seem fare but that’s just because they are looking at it all wrong.
Men are very practical, and often the more successful a man is the more rational and results oriented his mind becomes. This along with a lot of cultural conditioning leads men to believe that women are attracted to material signs of success and power. Guys buy fancy cars, jewelry, houses, boats, or other flashy displays of money to show off just how great they are… and though that may catch our attention it’s not enough to really satisfy or excite most women.
Contrary to popular belief women are not simply money grubbing and materialistic. Actually men are a lot more preoccupied with material or external stimulation. As I’m sure you know women are highly emotional and all of those trophies of power may have some sentimental or existential value to us but they are hardly the key to keeping us entertained and satisfied.
If you really want to attract and keep a women you need to engage her on an emotional level. We NEED to be emotionally gratified. Once you understand how to evoke a deep and sensual emotional connection it won’t matter if you live in a mansion or a garbage can you’ll have women begging for your attention.
For starters if you want to keep a women interested you’ve got to engage the four primary emotions of attraction:
Passion – This is the hot stuff that gets us wet. With seductive, playful, aggressive or even dangerous behavior you get us wanting to ride you like a wild stallion. You’ve got to turn us on to keep us happy and when we’re turned on I’m sure you’ll be happy too!
Desire – Desire is forward looking longing for future pleasure. It can be hard to appreciate because it’s not immediately gratifying but desire is a powerful force you’d be wise to master. Like a child drooling over a pile of presents stashed for weeks below the Christmas tree, we long for mystery and anticipation in our relationships. Surprise us with an unexpected treat every now and then. Plan a trip for us to look forward to. Heck, just texting us about how hard you’re going to fuck us when you get home from work is a great way to peek our desires.
Excitement – DON’T BE BORING! Seriously guys this is a big one. Excitement comes in many forms and you don’t have to do stunts to keep us entertained, more than anything just mix things up a bit to make us interested. When we start getting bored we look for drama… So if you don’t want drama then do something interesting.
Comfort – This is an easy one to overlook because it seems so simple. When you’re comfortable you hardly take notice but as soon as you’re in pain you remember just how important comfort really is. Now apart from the obvious discomfort of pain there are countless ways creepy dudes manage to make women uncomfortable. For starters: don’t stalk us or constantly stare at us while licking your lips with your hands in your pockets. Also if I don’t know you don’t touch me or block the doorway so I can’t escape you. Now that I’ve started I realize this list could get pretty long so lets suffice it to say just act natural and if you’re naturally creepy then you’ve gotta sort that out.